Love
Love is the basic foundation of any relationship.Love is the most positive energy that one person can share with another. However, today, we have reached a stage when we are not completely sure whether we are creating the right love for the right person at the right time. We have either clubbed love with lust or at least with the materialistic aspects.
Love, defined in simple terms, is the continuous, unconditional feeling of positive energy for someone. This is true, pure, genuine love.
This means that irrespective of anything that happens, one continues to feel the same for the other person. This means that even if the other person does not SMS back, or reply to the email, tag you in your Facebook pictures, ask whether you have eaten, iron your clothes and put them in order, ask you whether you are ill and get medicines for you, or even not love you back.
Let us go a step ahead. Love is when you feel the same for the other person even if they hate you. But then why to love such a person and keep doing stuff for them? This is where the definition of love becomes very crucial. Love is not 'doing' anything for anybody. Love is just being positive. Mind you, I did not say, 'Being positive for that person', because this again becomes 'doing'. The rest just flows. Today, since we consider "I am this body", and have forgotten "I am the energy driving this body", we look at every other aspect of love in the consciousness of this body, more materialistically. We play love at quite a low level, and thus tend to forget its true potential. This is why break-ups in relationships are more in number than the formations.
Yes, we play love at quite a low level. Today, lust has become an important component in the expression of love. Only if such an act is done in a relationship, then we feel that the love is 'complete'. In such a case, I would say, the love is completely impure now, because it is based on temporary pleasure, and not a genuine treasure. Be it husband-wife (where this is 'legally' permitted) or any other relationship, lust is considered as a highly important part of the fulfillment of love. I was surprised to read somewhere, 'Love exists between two persons, and sex is just a way to express it.' Love is not a bartering system.
We have been just playing around with words. We think sex (the verb) and lust are different expressions, and so is love. We say love exists between two individuals who decide to spend the rest of their lives together (I was just going to say boy and girl, but then remembered that today we have become blind to genders too), whereas it is Affection amongst the rest of the relationships. Care and Concern are again something disparate is what we believe. We also believe that there are various types of love, depending on how distant (physically or mentally) the other person is.
I do not intend to offend anybody, nor do I denigrate, demote or defame it, but I am personally against same-sex relationships, simply because 99.00% are based on physical intimacy. Oh, but then what about opposite-sex relationships, where 99.99% of them are based on the same? Good catch. Let me conclude that relationships where lust is the driving force cannot last. Let me share that I got divorced for the same reason. The problem was that I knew this true definition of pure love completely and the other person did not.
Once we dig and dive deep into the definition of love, we understand that it does not involve any 'doing' in it, not even being in the vicinity of the other. I love my biological mother immensely. I also love Madhuri Dixit immensely. Both of these are the same feelings of love that generate within me when I think of the both of them separately. I also love my cat, and it is the same feeling. I also love my work, and it is yet again, the same feeling. How we distinguish one love from another is by having the subtlest of expectations from the other person. For example, we might think that if I love my sister, she should also love me back. If I love my dog, he should be loyal to me. If I love a friend, he/she should also reciprocate that. Forget reciprocation we also fall into situations where we plead that the person 'at least' accept or know that we love them. This is also an expectation, and expectations are dangling bridges, not all of them can stand your weight. Expectations are due to attachments, and whenever they are not met, they cause immense pain.
Love, is basically liberty. Thus, possessiveness means the lack of true love for the other person. Love is just energy that I the soul generates within. If energy itself cannot be captured and captivated (though it can be just transferred), how can love contain the feelings of possessiveness?
Love is to let be. Letting someone be the way they are is having unconditional love for the other. Unconditional love means that your feelings of love do not fluctuate depending on how the other person behaves. Unconditional love is pure and true love. Love is not a bartering system. It is just only meant to be given.
Love is soul-consciousness. Love is an inherent original quality of the soul. In fact, I would say that if you break the soul into 7 parts, one of the parts will be love. Once you experience that you are a soul, looking at everybody else as a soul becomes natural, and this is where you have the same amount of love for everybody. Your love, then, does not depend upon or get influenced by their looks, role, position, designation, or their vicinity in your life.